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		<title>Say NO to ACTA</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 22 Jan 2012 20:50:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Henk ter Heide</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Blogging]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Personal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ACTA]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[democracy]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[It seems that the threads to the freedom of speech of ordinary people and there ability to earn an honest living is even bigger then the struggle against SOPA suggested. Learn more and take action about ACTA at http://lqdn.fr/ACTA (subtitles included : fr, en, es, de, it, nl, se, pt, ro, ca, hu, gr, &#8230;) [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>It seems that the threads to the freedom of speech of ordinary people and there ability to earn an honest living is even bigger then the struggle against SOPA suggested.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.henkterheide.com/2012/01/22/say-no-to-acta/"><em>Click here to view the embedded video.</em></a></p>
<p>Learn more and take action about ACTA at<br />
<a href="http://lqdn.fr/ACTA">http://lqdn.fr/ACTA</a><br />
(subtitles included : fr, en, es, de, it, nl, se, pt, ro, ca, hu, gr, &#8230;)</p>
<p>Here are few ways to act against ACTA, right now:<br />
<a href="http://www.laquadrature.net/wiki/How_to_act_against_ACTA">http://www.laquadrature.net/wiki/How_to_act_against_ACTA</a></p>
<p>Ongoing translation and subtitling efforts:<br />
<a href="https://pad.lqdn.fr/p/trad-video-acta">https://pad.lqdn.fr/p/trad-video-acta</a></p>
<p>Full script:</p>
<p>Can you imagine your Internet Service Provider policing everything you do online?<br />
Can you imagine generic drugs that could save lives being banned?<br />
Can you imagine seeds that could feed 1000&#8242;s being controlled and withheld in the name of patents?</p>
<p>This will become reality with ACTA.</p>
<p>ACTA is the Anti Counterfeiting Trade Agreement.<br />
Disguised as a Trade Agreement, ACTA goes much, much further than that.</p>
<p>For the past 3 years, ACTA has been negotiated in secret by 39 countries.<br />
But the negotiators are not democratically elected representatives.<br />
They don&#8217;t represent us, but they are deciding laws behind our backs.</p>
<p>Bypassing our democratic processes, they impose new criminal sanctions to stop online file sharing.</p>
<p>ACTA aims to make Internet Service &amp; Access Providers legally responsible for what their users do online, turning them into Private Copyright Police &amp; Judge, censoring their networks.<br />
The chilling effects on free speech would be terrible.</p>
<p>In the name of patents, ACTA would give large corporations the power to stop generic drugs before they reach them people who need them, and stop the use of certain seeds for crops.</p>
<p>The European Parliament will soon vote on ACTA.<br />
This vote will be the occasion to say no once and for all to this dangerous treaty.<br />
As citizens, we must urge our representatives to reject ACTA.</p>
<p>NO TO ACTA.</p>
<p>Learn more, Take action<br />
<a href="www.lqdn.fr/acta">www.lqdn.fr/acta</a></p>
<p>A film directed by<br />
Benoît Musereau<br />
<a href="www.benoitmusereau.com">www.benoitmusereau.com</a></p>
<p>Script by<br />
La Quadrature du Net</p>
<p>Animated by<br />
Morgan Dupuy</p>
<p>Designed by<br />
Marion Leblanc</p>
<p>Voice by<br />
Axel Simon</p>
<p>Music by<br />
Mawashi<br />
<a href="www.mawashi.fr">www.mawashi.fr</a></p>
<p>La Quadrature du Net<br />
CC-By-SA 2011-10<br />
<a href="http://lqdn.fr/acta">http://lqdn.fr/acta</a><br />
Category:<br />
News &amp; Politics<br />
Tags:<br />
ACTA Copyright Police Trade Agreement Sharing Internet seeds Generic Drugs Educational<br />
License:<br />
Creative Commons Attribution license (reuse allowed)</p>
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		<title>Did you lose all your friends when you where 13?</title>
		<link>http://www.henkterheide.com/2012/01/19/did-you-lose-all-your-friends-when-you-where-13/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Jan 2012 20:18:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Henk ter Heide</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Personal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adolescents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[be friends]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[development]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[lonely]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[The strange thing is that lonely people with a lot of problems always think that their problems are generally known. They hate their family and colleagues for not helping them. In actual fact no one knows about your problems. Even people who have gone through the same kind of problems as you are experiencing, can&#8217;t [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>The strange thing is that lonely people with a lot of problems always think<br />
that their problems are generally known.<br />
They hate their family and colleagues for not helping them.<br />
In actual fact no one knows about your problems.<br />
Even people who have gone through the same kind of problems as you are<br />
experiencing, can&#8217;t see the difference between people who choose to be on their<br />
own and people who don&#8217;t know how to make friends.<br />
So if you recognize yourself in this article.<br />
Don&#8217;t worry.<br />
Nobody knows it&#8217;s about you.</p>
<p>Going through puberty is a difficult time.<br />
A lot changes.<br />
Not only your body changes, but also the way you think, the way you deal with<br />
problems, the way you deal with people. Even your behavior changes; you learn<br />
how to behave as an adult male or female (by imitating the behavior of your<br />
father or mother).</p>
<p>A lot can go wrong.<br />
And since there are so many developments going on there are a lot of different<br />
problems adolescents can run into.<br />
And just like most people with problems adolescents with problems are selfish<br />
and only feel at ease with people with the same kind of problems.</p>
<p>And that is where the trouble starts.<br />
As adults we tend to forget how limited the world of children and young<br />
adolescents is.<br />
Children will only talk with children their own age or maybe one year older or<br />
younger.<br />
Except at the start of puberty.<br />
Thirteen year olds feel that twelve year olds are childish.<br />
So they&#8217;ll only talk to children who are older. But fifteen year olds feel that<br />
thirteen year olds are childish and won&#8217;t talk to them.<br />
So thirteen year olds can only talk to other thirteen year olds and fourteen<br />
year olds.</p>
<p>And then there are the geographical boundaries.<br />
Children and young adolescents only know children within a 50 meters radius of<br />
their home and only talk to children within a 3 meters radius of their seat at<br />
school.<br />
Children at the front of the class don&#8217;t talk with children at the back of the<br />
class.</p>
<p>So when you&#8217;re thirteen there are about 10 children with whome you could be<br />
friends.<br />
If your thirteen and your parents are divorced and none of those 10 children<br />
have parents that are divorced, it&#8217;s very easy to feel an outcast.<br />
If you&#8217;re gay or have autism or some other less frequent problem it&#8217;s even less<br />
likely that you know anyone with the same problems. And more likely that you<br />
feel an outcast.</p>
<p>If you felt an outcast as a child you probably also felt picked on.<br />
You felt that (some) children where mean spirits that took great joy in hurting<br />
you.<br />
But actually they weren&#8217;t.<br />
They were just frightened children with their own problems that hurt what they<br />
didn&#8217;t understand.<br />
(How could they have understood, since you never told them what hurt you&#8230;)<br />
So you got used to doing things all by your selves.</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;***</p>
<p>Everything changes when you turn eighteen.<br />
You go out to work or to study.<br />
You have a lot more money, join a club or go to a pub.<br />
In some countries you&#8217;re considered an adult, in others almost an adult. And<br />
all of a sudden you find that every one between 18 and 81 wants to talk to you.<br />
You find that there are hundreds of people who want to talk with you, and<br />
dozens with the same problems as you have.</p>
<p>The only thing is that you have gotten used to going it alone.<br />
You shrug people off.<br />
You&#8217;re still afraid that people will hurt you.</p>
<p>It took me till I was in my early thirties before I realized that something had<br />
changed.<br />
In my teens children enjoyed setting me up for jokes that I didn&#8217;t understand.<br />
In my thirties I came to understand that being friends isn&#8217;t a zero sum game:<br />
People will only talk to you when they enjoy talking to you.<br />
So for those of us who where picked on in our teens it&#8217;s very easy to drive the<br />
people away who want to befriend us.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s very easy to prove that nobody wants to befriend you.<br />
But if you try it&#8217;s as easy to find people who do want to befriend you.<br />
And with the much bigger choice you have, it&#8217;s very easy to avoid the few<br />
people you don&#8217;t like.</p>
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		<title>Showing respect</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Jan 2012 20:35:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Henk ter Heide</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I must be getting old. The other day I found myself annoyed for not getting the kind of respect that I&#8217;m due. Isn&#8217;t that the age old cry of the elderly? Not being shown enough respect. It had me wondering what respect actually is and in which circumstance I have a right to be treated [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I must be getting old.<br />
The other day I found myself annoyed for not getting the kind of respect that<br />
I&#8217;m due.<br />
Isn&#8217;t that the age old cry of the elderly? Not being shown enough respect.</p>
<p>It had me wondering what respect actually is and in which circumstance I have<br />
a right to be treated with respect. And in which circumstance I have a duty<br />
to treat others with respect.</p>
<p>Listening to the way people around me talk about respect. It seems to me that<br />
respect is a kind of reward. Awarded only to people who treat you nicely.<br />
But that can&#8217;t be right.</p>
<p>Given how many reasons there are to treat people rudely.<br />
If this was a tit for tat world where you would only treat people nice if<br />
they treated you nice. You would never reach the situation where you could<br />
reward any one.<br />
Nobody would ever be nice to you.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m reminded of a saying we had in the Netherlands in the 60s and 70s.<br />
&#8220;Better the world but start by bettering yourself&#8221; (verbeter de wereld, begin<br />
met jezelf).<br />
The reasoning being that you can&#8217;t influence how other people behave, but you<br />
can influence your own behavior.<br />
But in my experience that&#8217;s not true.<br />
I can influence the way people behave by the way I treat them. If I treat<br />
them nice they usually treat me nice.<br />
The more respect I show people, the more respect they show me.<br />
Which means that respect must be an investment in a future relationship.</p>
<p>***</p>
<p>The funny thing is that this definition explains why I feel that there used<br />
to be so much more respect.</p>
<p>The young are far more whimsical, running from one relationship to the next.<br />
They don&#8217;t feel the necessity to invest very much in those relationships.<br />
But as we get older we get more steady in our relationships and invest more<br />
in them.</p>
<p>So in my youth I dealt with a lot of people who where much older then me. My<br />
parents, parents of friends, teachers, shopkeepers and so on. Who invested in<br />
the relationship by virtue of showing me respect.<br />
Nowadays most of the people I deal with are younger then me and don&#8217;t feel<br />
the need to invest in the relationship. And of course some are older but they<br />
feel we live in a tit for tat world and only have to show me respect if I<br />
show them respect.</p>
<p>It would seem that if I feel that I don&#8217;t get the respect I&#8217;m due, I would be<br />
best of by showing some respect.<br />
That way I have the best changes of getting some back.</p>
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		<title>The disability paradox</title>
		<link>http://www.henkterheide.com/2012/01/14/the-disability-paradox/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 14 Jan 2012 20:20:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Henk ter Heide</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Personal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[disability]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[skills]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Don&#8217;t you hate it when disabled people use the disability card? Drawing your pity by explaining how they can&#8217;t preform some mediocre task because they&#8217;re disabled. I do. Having a disability I hate it even more when I act that way. But things seem to have changed the last ten or fifteen years. It used [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Don&#8217;t you hate it when disabled people use the disability card?<br />
Drawing your pity by explaining how they can&#8217;t preform some mediocre<br />
task because they&#8217;re disabled.<br />
I do.<br />
Having a disability I hate it even more when I act that way.</p>
<p>But things seem to have changed the last ten or fifteen years.<br />
It used to be that when I told people that I can&#8217;t drive a car. They<br />
felt sorry for me, because that meant having to use that nuisance called<br />
public transport.<br />
But nowadays I better have a good story to explain why I can&#8217;t.<br />
Otherwise they&#8217;ll treat me as though I&#8217;m some kind of moron.</p>
<p>The big question here is.<br />
How will I ever improve my working conditions if I keep pointing people<br />
to the tasks I can&#8217;t preform. Instead of calling their attention to the<br />
skills I excel at.</p>
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		<title>writing vs drawing</title>
		<link>http://www.henkterheide.com/2011/11/20/writing-vs-drawing/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 20 Nov 2011 20:04:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Henk ter Heide</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Personal]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[A few days ago I said that I don&#8217;t like the kind of stories I tell now days. And in one sense I don&#8217;t. Twenty years ago, for a short while, I wrote very happy stories. Stories about the things I saw. Like a game two little children thought up while waiting in a butcher&#8217;s [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>A few days ago I said that I don&#8217;t like the kind of stories I tell now days. And in one sense I don&#8217;t.<br />
Twenty years ago, for a short while, I wrote very happy stories. Stories about the things I saw. Like a game two little children thought up while waiting in a butcher&#8217;s shop.<br />
These stories where fun.<br />
But at the same time they where a little childish.</p>
<p>I started this blog because I thought that I could use drawings to tell my story.<br />
I had just discovered that I have a photographic memory. And I thought that if I would show the pictures in my mind people would understand who I am.<br />
Picture tell a 1000 words, don&#8217;t they?</p>
<p>Turns out they don&#8217;t.<br />
A 1000 words are about 2 pages of text. Which take me about five minutes to type.<br />
(Provided I know before hand what I want to tell.)<br />
A picture on the other hand take hours to draw. And they takes a lot of skill. And there is no way you can work on your drawing except when your sitting at your desk.<br />
But mostly drawing bores me.</p>
<p>Having thought a few day about why I mostly write about myself. I conclude that is because that&#8217;s what I&#8217;m thinking about.<br />
Writing about funny things children do might be fun. But writing about the things that affect me is way more interesting.</p>
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